Rejection...

I came across this article and wanted to share it with you. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did:

“Want to go boxing?” my friend Danielle asked me one morning.  “Marc and I are loving it. You have to try it out!”

“Um..ok…” I said reluctantly.

Driving over to the gym I felt a bit of excitement and fear at the same time.  What if I made a fool of myself?  That was highly likely.  Oh well.  I was willing to take the risk and face the fear.

To be honest that first class was more of a mental challenge than anything else.  Jab, cross, left hook?  What does that mean?  I bumbled over the lingo and the movements and then, would you guess, I came back for more.

A boxing bag to one person can produce feelings of fear and anxiety and to another person can produce feelings of empowerment and excitement.  Is it the bag?  Or is it you, placing your own meaning onto it?

Rejection is the same.  To one person it can be the juice that motivates them to pick up the phone ten more times and to another it is the TKO that has them lying on the ground unable to get up.
So what if I told you there was a way to NEVER fear rejection again?

Imagine walking into a room, or picking up the phone, every time with your head held high and a smile on your face.  Would you believe me?

I’m going to help create a new mindset around rejection.  This is powerful stuff.  I promise you’ll feel stronger and more powerful than you ever have before and your business will benefit in a big way!

Let’s get started.

Mindset Shift 1: Accept yourself completely.

To be sure, we all have areas we are working on improving.  However, it is important to accept yourself just as you are now.  So you want to lose twenty pounds? Great.  Go for it, AND in the process love all that your body already does for you.  You want to double your income this year? Awesome. AND accept that where you are now is exactly where you need to be.

Letting go of a “WHEN this happens, THEN I’ll be _________” mindset is crucial to overcoming the fear of rejection.  When you love who you are, warts and all, no one else has the power to make you feel inferior.

Easy to say, harder to do.  This may help.

When you’re feeling rejected ask yourself, and write it down:

• What do I need from this person right now?
• What would a ‘yes’ mean to me right now?
• What if I don’t get it?
• Will I still be alright?
• What lessons can I take away from this situation to make me even better next time?

Good questions!  When you see that you don’t need acceptance from anyone to feel okay in your own skin, you have just loosened the grip that the fear of rejection has on you.
Choose to deliberately shift your focus to more empowering thinking:

• I’m a great person.
• I have a lot to offer.
• I accept who I am right now
• I am doing the best I can

This gets you on the path to reclaiming your personal power.

Mindset Shift 2: All I have to do is share.

When we believe our products and business opportunity are valuable we are no longer selling.  We are sharing.  We are exploring, through conversation, to see who is open.

It is vitally important to shift from a selling mindset to a sharing mindset, if you are going to squash the fear of rejection.

Sharing stems from love and generosity.  It is helpful and kind.  It is curious and complimentary.  It is friendly and forgiving.  Approaching someone with this energy is magnetic.

Here is my secret.  When I am out prospecting, whether on social media, or in person, I have no idea who is going to be receptive to getting involved with me as a customer or a business partner and who isn’t and I absolutely refrain from prejudging anyone.

My job, as I see it, is to ask good questions, be interested in what the other person has to say and see how I can help them get what they want.  If, after talking with them I feel what I have to offer could help, I confidently share my product or opportunity.

Just this week I was working from home when my bug man came by for our quarterly service.  I asked him if he’d like a drink and he was so thrilled.  I gave him two bottles of water, one for now and one for later, and we started talking.  It soon came out that he was not feeling well and wanted to put on weight.  He was the thinnest he had been in years.

This was an open door to share what I do and how it might help him put on some lean muscle mass and regain his energy.  Regardless of whether he purchases or not, I have done my job. This leads to the final point…

Mindset Shift 3: Detach from the end result.

An exercise I often do with my clients is asking them to visualize two buckets: a bucket of what you can control and a bucket of what you can’t control. It’s quite interesting to see what lights turn on while doing this exercise. I encourage you to do it right now.

Fold a piece of paper in half.  At the top of one column write Things I CAN Control and over the other Things I CANNOT Control.  Write them down now.

Anytime we are feeling rejected, chances are we are over-focused on the bucket of things we cannot control like other people’s opinions, beliefs, attitudes and ideas of us, our business, our friends and our choices. This was a huge lesson for me.

This third shift will help you see that rejection is in the bucket of things we cannot control and when we turn our focus away from the result and turn it onto what we CAN CONTROL, like our own actions, conversations, attitudes and choices, we will feel victorious.

Wrapping It Up

Imagine if you completely accepted yourself, you focused on sharing your products and opportunity  and you were unattached to the end result.  You could easily reach out to your dream clients with no fear of rejection.  You would approach every situation from a posture of accepting yourself and only looking for where you can help others. Imagine if you could focus on only the things you can control. Imagine how powerful you would feel. Imagine how much success would be attracted to you like a magnet.

Let this be your guiding force as you make your calls, build your team and grow your business.

Rejection will be a feeling of the past.  You’re too powerful to waste your time on that.  Now go hit that bag!

Hope you found value in this post! If I can help you with anything in your business, please feel free to reach me directly at 612-208-9434.

To your success~

Love....

Today I want to encourage you to build your life, work, business, school, project and team with love instead of fear. Remind yourself that if you aren’t building it with love it won’t become all that it can be. Only through love will you create something special, magnificent and compelling. Only through love will you build a masterpiece. 

So if you are trying to build a business focus on the love you have of building it rather than the fear of losing it. If you work at a school focus on loving your students instead of fearing all the new testing standards. If you are a young athlete, dancer, musician or artist, focus on your love of playing and performing instead of your fear of failing. Worrying about the outcome and what people think will steal your joy and sabotage your success but loving and appreciating the moment will energize you and enhance your performance. 

And if you are a coach or manager building a team, remember that that whatever you try to build with fear will eventually crumble. But that which is built with love will endure. If you build your team with love they will become more and do more than you ever thought possible. 

Most of all, as you build with love, know that you will face many challenges and negative forces that can shift your focus back to fear if you let it. When this happens decide to LOVE ALL OF IT. When you love all of it you will fear none of it.

Love the struggle because it makes you appreciate your accomplishments.

Love challenges because they make you stronger.

Love competition because it makes you better

Love negative people because they make you more positive.

Love those who have hurt you because they teach you forgiveness.

Love fear because it makes you courageous.

The secret to life and the greatest success strategy of all is to love all of it and fear none of it. 

I hope you found value in this post. Please feel free to share it with your team. If I can help you in anyway, please feel free to reach me directly at 612-208-9434. 

To your success~

 

Climbing Mountains....

My family was out for a bike ride this weekend, enjoying our beautiful Spring like weather. We rode up to the golf course and around it. There are several hills along the golf course and there was some children running up and down the hills. I knew what was coming next. My son said "I want to run up the hill." So, we stopped for a break and told him, "Go ahead and climb that hill." 

He stood at the bottom looking at the hill. To him I could tell it seemed like a mountain. He started up the hill but then stopped. His momentum could not carry him up the hill. It was pretty steep and he looked nervous and scared. I wasn't sure if he would be able to climb it and neither was he. Then I said, "step back and then run up it," so he did fearlessly. 

When he reached the top his face beamed with pride. He just stood there looking at the view from the top; his view and perspective changed by a few seconds and a climb up a little mountain.

From the look on his face, which I will never forget, I could tell his confidence was at an all time high. He proceeded to run up and down the three little hills like a human rollercoaster. When he reached the bottom of the third hill we walked back to the bike and went on our way. 

I realized at that moment why we all need to climb a mountain every now and then. When we climb mountains, face challenges, hurdle obstacles and learn from difficult situations we are reminded that we have the strength and power to overcome life's challenges. 

At first even a little mountain may seem like a big insurmountable mountain. But when you step back and climb it you realize, "I can do this."

The mountain, no matter how big it is, is no match for your faith and desire to climb it. Mountains are meant to be climbed. Wounds are meant to be healed and problems are meant to become learning experiences. They all serve a purpose. They make us stronger mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

While we often can't control what happens to us we can control how we see and climb the mountains in our life. We can look at mountains as being in the way or as "the way" to growth. 

We have a choice. We can stand at the bottom and say, "it's too hard, it's too high and I can't do it" or we can dig down deep and find the very best in ourselves and fearlessly run up it. 

Hope you found value today! Please feel free to share with your team. 

To your success~

 

Distractions....

Have you ever been moving along, being incredibly productive and making progress of growing your Home Based business and then all of a sudden life happens?  A curve ball is thrown your way.  A financial situation arises.  The car breaks down.  Family comes to visit.  You find out you need some kind of major medical treatment.  You are bombarded with all kinds of distractions.  How do you conquer these distractions? How do you handle it?  How do those situations and circumstances affect you and your business?

4 Tips For Overcoming Distractions:

1.  Crap Happens. Realize that circumstances and events will happen, but you get to choose how you respond.
2.  Name Your Distraction.  By acknowledging it and calling it out, you are more aware of the situation and the way it affects your progress.
3.  Take Responsibility.  You have complete control of the way you react, respond and the action you take to counter-act the situation/circumstance/event.
4. Stay Focused.  This is when it’s vital to have a Vision that is bigger than the circumstances you are up against.  It does you no good to beat yourself up for being distracted, but positive action to move through and past the situation will give you strength.

Mindset Training Is Vital For Success

If you have big dreams feel confident that big distractions are coming your way.  Every leader and every top earner in the home based business industry faces these issues. While this may sound frustrating, you can also gleam some assurance from it as well – successful people have overcome these situations, learning from what they had to overcome.  Knowing that these challenges are in front of you will only empower you to push past them.  Leadership and strength come from the challenges, not the easy times.

Why is mindset training is so important for those of us in the home based business industry?  Because so much of our success is dependent on our mindset, our response to challenges and the way we take action during the times of adversity.  Nobody ever said growing a business was easy, right?  If it were easy, everyone would achieve great success.  Decide that your vision will pull you through the tough times.  It’s just a matter of making a decision and keeping a powerful mindset.


Personal development will help with improving your mindset. It is recommended to spend at least 30 minutes per day on personal development. For me, I love to listen to audio's as well as read books. My goal is to read 2-3 books every month.

Here are a few of my favorites:

Awaken The Giant Within by Tony Robbins

How To Win Friends and Influence People

Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

The Slight Edge

The Secret

Remember you decide how you are going to react to a distraction. How you react determines the rest of your day! Improve your mindset and you will be able to overcome any distraction!

Hope this helps you out today! If I can help you with anything, please feel free to reach out to me directly by phone or text: 612-208-9434.

To your success~

Teamwork

I came across these teamwork tips and wanted to share them with you. They are very powerful and a great reminder stay positive, push forward and help everyone. I always say to my team "to the top together!". 

Enjoy and please share with your team! 

1. Teams rise and fall on culture, leadership, relationships, attitude and effort.

Great teams have a great culture driven by great leadership. Relationships are meaningful and teammates are connected. The collective attitude is very positive and everyone on the team works hard to accomplish their mission. 

2. It’s all about teamwork. Sometimes you are the star and sometimes you help the star.

3. If want to be truly great you have to work as hard to be a great teammate as you do to be a great player. When we work hard to be a great team member we make everyone around us better. 

4. Your team doesn’t care if you are a superstar. They care if you are a super team member.

5. Three things you control every day are your attitude, your effort and your actions to be a great teammate. It doesn’t matter what is happening around you and who you think is being unfair. Every day you can focus on being positive, working hard and making others around you better. If you do that great things will happen. 

6. One person can’t make a team but one person can break a team. Stay positive!

Make sure you don’t let energy vampires sabotage your team. Post a sign that says “No Energy Vampires” allowed and keep them off the bus. Most importantly, decide to stay positive. 

7. Great team members hold each other accountable to the high standards and excellence their culture expects and demands. 

8. Team beats talent when talent isn’t a team.

9. Great teams care more. They care more about their effort, their work and their team members.

10. We > me

Unity is the difference between a great team and an average team. United teams are connected and committed to each other. They are selfless instead of selfish. They put the team first and know together we accomplish more. 

11. You and your team face a fork in the road each day. You can settle for average and choose the path of mediocrity or you can take the road less traveled and chase greatness.

It’s a choice you make each day. Which path will your team take? 

 

I hope you found value! Please let me know if I can help you with anything in your business. You can call/text me directly at 612-208-9434. 

To your success~

Be a Better You

Happy New Year...yeah I know it's March! It's a little late but better late than never right? I was talking to a team member this morning and she was asking about blogging. I knew it had been a while since I had posted. I apologize. I am back and my promise to you is to share valuable information several times per week to help you grow your business!

Today I want to share with you some ways that will help you get better at not only in your business, but anything that you want to invest your time in.

Have A Dream & A Vision

Successful people seem to have this one trait in common, they started with a dream and a vision of what they wanted to accomplish.

When I started my home business, I had a dream of a very large team, helping tons of people leave corporate America and designing a lifestyle of time and financial freedom.

In order to get good at something you’re going to have to continue through the difficult times and it’s much easier to do this when you have a dream and a vision of where you are headed.

Consistency Is Key

The more you do something, the better you will get at doing it.

Think back to the first time you invited someone to see your presentation, then compare it with the 10th time…and then the 100th time.  You get better by consistently doing it.

You can clearly see that is the case in every other area of your life, so you know it has to be the same for your home business too, right?

If you want to get better, take consistent action to improve.  You will not be perfect when you first start, but you will get better with each action taken.

Just keep swimming! as Dori would say!

Know Your Numbers

What you measure, you can improve.

You also hear people say “What you focus on expands.”

By keeping track of key measurements, you’re able to see the areas you need to improve, mark improvement and see that you are getting better.

In growing your business, you need to keep up with the number of invites, number of presentations and the number of new customers/reps you bring on.

Surround Yourself With The Right People

When you want to get better at something, you want to surround yourself with people who have already succeeded in that particular area.  You’ll also want to find others who are working to achieve the same goal.

I’d even suggest surrounding yourself with people of success in other areas too.  Success in any area leaves clues, and you’ll want to make certain you surround yourself with people of a wining and successful mindset.

Attitude & Coachable

Your attitude and your willingness to learn will play a major role in getting better at any endeavor.
Having a “can do” attitude that understands there will be hard times, tension and struggle along the way will help you as you work past the difficult times.

Being coachable and seeking advice, help, instruction and feedback will be key to improving.  When you find people who have already gone through what you are going through and have already accomplished what you wish to accomplish will help with the learning curve.  You can greatly learn from the experiences of others if you are open and willing to let go of some ego.

Learn From Professionals

When you want to get better at something, learn from those who teach those particular skills.  Look for training courses and events that will help you grow.

Over the course of my home business career I have consistently invested in courses, training, seminars, webinars, events, audios, etc that focused specifically on skills I wanted to improve on.

Personal Development

A home based business is a personal development business.  Above I mentioned learning skills from professionals, but personal development is about developing YOU.  It’s about becoming a better you and becoming the best version of you possible.

You constantly hear leaders in home business companies talk about hitting plateaus or road blocks that kept them in one place until they became the person, the leader, who could take their team to the next level.

YOU HAVE TO WORK ON YOU!

As you become the best version of YOU it opens up every other area of your life for improvement as well.

Spend time daily with books, audios and videos working on YOU. Make YOU your biggest investment!

I hope you have enjoyed these tips. If I can help you with anything, please feel free to reach out to me directly by phone or text at 612-208-9434 (Please note my new number).

To your success in 2016 and beyond~